I made this beautiful nightlight and recently hung it up in my daughters' room... with their new beautiful pink curtains - an attempt to make their room a joyful place... girly and perfect for my little Princesses. Instead of saying, "Oh, mom, it's so beautiful. Thank You!" I get feet stomping and yelling that it's not what she wanted and that I needed to buy her a new one, "RIGHT NOW!"
I also bought her a funky cool white bookcase for their room. It's seriously cool... and it was only $10 at a yard sale! It has cool large compartments too, so she could use it as a Barbie house or just store their books and treasures. Again, I get feet stamping tantrum that it's not what she wanted... it's not pink... "Why didn't you paint it, mom?! I want you to paint it RIGHT NOW! It's boring! I don't like it."
Why... why you ask, do I ever buy anything for this child. This is what I get.
I peel an apple... I'm doing it wrong. I pick out a dress... no, it's the wrong one. I make breakfast... I got the wrong cereal. I make her a doll.... the color of the dress isn't pretty. I buy her new shoes... they don't have sparkles.
Absolutely NOTHING is ever good enough for this child. It's embarrassing with guests around too - if they give her something... she finds fault. If they cook her something... she finds fault. And I'm fed up.
How do you raise a grateful child? How do you teach them to just say, "Thank you." How do you raise a gracious, kind, sweet, thoughtful child?
What have I done wrong? I have failed.... how can I fix this?
I realize that parents need to lead by example... and I can see how maybe it could be thought that it's learned... that I treat her like nothing she does is right... that I don't praise her enough... that I'm too critical.
Time to work on some things - I'm open to suggestions. Please?
Once on a trip through Target when O was about 3... she was demanding this and that... not asking, but demanding. I say, "no." I always say, "no." I do not cave. I never cave. She screamed, "But I'm a Princess!!!"